I listened to a presentation this week where we were told that we are the average of the people we spend the most time with. This echoes the ever popular (and slightly cringey!) “Your vibe attracts your tribe”.
I understand this mentality, I really do. It’s great to surround ourselves with inspiring people and boost each other.
However, there’s a danger that this mentality is going too far. Imagine if a nurse told her patients they can’t be around sick people, “bad vibes, soz babez!”
Imagine if every husband that cares for their chronically ill wife decided to tell her he couldn’t be around her as “you’re bringing me down, love!” and vice versa.
Every parent with a difficult teenager told them they had no time for them as they’re not in a positive enough “zone”.
I have personal experience with this having had depression myself and living with my boyfriend Tim who has dealt with deep depression for years, and we’ve both only begun to heal the last few years of our near ten year relationship. He could have easily left me, saying I was bringing him further down, but neither of us thought like that. We know we love each other and wanted to grow together and get better.
I do actually believe that we attract the people in our lives. Sometimes though, we attract them so we can help or they can help us. So we can learn. So we can grow ourselves and help others grow in return.
Apply this attitude of only surrounding yourself with positive people to the way we think of money. Money is energy too so it’s a good analogy. Only associating with rich people and helping those who are rich means the rich get richer and this is how people get pushed further and further downwards.
We need to surround the people you think of as “low vibe” people with love and support even more so, not decide they are bringing us down and abandon them! Yes of course, protect your health and only each of us truly knows our individual situation so there is no blame being thrown here on those who do choose to separate from others. Do what you feel is right and the best for yours and the other persons’ good.
I know this blog is a bit of ramble sorry, it all came pouring out quickly! I’ll probably edit it soon to make more sense haha!